The Three Cs In Life

“Three Cs in life: Choices, Chances and Change

You must make a choice to take a chance or life will never change”


Recently I made a major change in my life. It wasn’t made hurriedly. I had a choice. Stay in a city and state that has many great features or move interstate to a totally unfamiliar environment. I made the choice, took a chance and now love the changes. Having always lived in cool or cold weather climates I now live in a sub-tropical climate, closer to family. This move means making new friendships, charting a different course, taking risks and also having masses of trust that this is a worthwhile change.

Each day I marvel at the lushness of vegetation, relish the relative warmth of winter and am discovering a plethora of new adventures and opportunities. Best of all, it feels like I’ve finally found my tribe. It’s so easy to make friends and best of all I feel as though I’ve come home. Taking this gamble is already paying off in ways I’d never imagined possible.

Socrates is quoted as saying, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”. This is what my focus and intention are at the moment, while simultaneously feeling gratitude for whatever else has been experienced previously.

Nevertheless not all choices result in change that feels positive, healthy or uplifting. Since leaving New York in 2013 I’ve moved house seven times. Each time I’ve hoped and trusted that the move was the “right” move, and each time something just felt a tad off. Yet with each move there were accompanying experiences and opportunities for growth and learning – all of which have been profound and truly worthwhile, even though they didn’t always feel that way!

The biggest change of all, however, is my decision to once again immerse myself in the work I love doing and which I’ve neglected somewhat these past five years. Telling myself that it’s good to have a hiatus, to have time to explore other options and possibilities was necessary as the time away has truly shown me where my passion lies. Sometimes making a choice, taking a chance and experiencing change can provide an opportunity for revealing what has been taken for granted or has been overlooked. As yet I’m not sure just how my foray back into doing what I’ve done previously is going to look. Will I work the same way? Or will there be new and different approaches taken? Only time will tell.

As human beings we are capricious. We often focus on what is lacking rather than on what is right in front of us. This tendency provides plentiful opportunity for questioning, reflecting, analysing and understanding. I’ve used the five year hiatus to gain a stronger sense of my own value, to grow spiritually, further hone my skills and to also understand my insignificance in the bigger scheme of things.

Life is precious. Every moment offers opportunity for appreciation, growth, learning and more. Right now, from what I understand my astrology friends are saying, there are a lot of planets in retrograde. When combined with eclipses the cosmic energies don’t necessarily support us in forward movement. What, however, they do is provide an opportunity for inner growth, expansion and exploration.

Who are you? What are you here for? What choices and possibilities are available to you? What changes are desirable? How can you create desired change? And, what chances need to be taken? If you are in any way unhappy or dissatisfied with the way things are going then right now is a really good time to reflect, plan and begin creating the changes you desire. There’s a lot to be said for the well-known statement, “The longest journey begins with the smallest of steps.”  Only you can know what you need do in order to continue on this journey called life. It’s up to you to make the most of this journey, to make choices and take the chances that support you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.

And, remember, there are no right or wrong choices. Every choice offers opportunities for learning and growth in one way or another. Personally I prefer to think of them as ‘detours’, and some are pleasant while others are not so. Make the journey an adventure, view the positive experiences with joy, view the less than positive experiences for what they offer in terms of understanding. But ultimately, live with gratitude knowing you have options along with the power to manifest magnificently.



My latest book was released earlier this year, but not published under my name. My publisher insisted that I used a pen name. Some of you may be aware of this fact, others may not. However, I believe in transparency and happily admit that I’ve been blessed with countless weird, wonderful, out of this world experiences. It’s not easy feeling like the misfit, the person who doesn’t fit in, whose world view seems to be at odds with the general consensus. Yet, there are many people like myself who feel this way and if my story in any way helps even one person be true to who they are then I’ll have done my job.

The book is entitled A Square Peg: Conformity Isn’t An Option. Pen name is Gabriella Jaye. Published by Balboa Press and it’s available internationally at all good retail outlets and is also as an eBook. Check out the reviews on

I also started a blog to support the book’s release – – it’s still in its infancy, but hopefully it will also provide a forum for others to share their stories and experiences.

Riding the Waves of Change

Holiday season is a time for spending quality moments with family and friends, and reflecting on the important things in life. It also happens to be one of the most stressful times of the year.

Currently we are experiencing some incredibly intense energies as our planet and solar system are moving further into the photon belt. This phenomenon occurs every twenty-four to twenty-six thousand years (depending on which school of thought you follow). When this happens there is a significant shift in vibration, shifting everything into much higher frequencies.

While this is something that can be discussed academically, and which we may think really doesn’t impact us greatly, the truth is that we have been impacted and affected by these changes for some years. The intensity of these energetic changes, however, has dramatically increased in recent months.

Currently stress, tension and anxiety seem to be highly prevalent in our society. It’s easy to lay the blame for this occurrence on our economic climate, erratic weather conditions, poor crop harvests and on declining employment opportunities. These, however, are merely indicators of the significant shift that is occurring.

As the intensity of the higher energetic frequencies impact our physical bodies we find ourselves in a state of dissatisfaction and flux. Some of the indicators that are evident within society include:  relationships ending;  family dissension;  employment dissatisfaction;  friendship dissolution;  change of residence/locality;  and increasing suicides.

While the above factors may all be viewed as potential disasters they in fact indicate that on a deep level there is significant inner change occurring. Anything and everything that is of a lower vibration cannot – and will not – survive and flourish in the higher frequencies.

This means that lower frequency energies that once held relationships together no longer do so, employment situations that are detrimental to one’s highest good will change, etc.

The process of shifting from the lower frequency into the higher frequency vibrations is not without its challenges. There is often great mental and emotional pain. At times there is physical manifestation, in terms of illness conditions.

So, how can we best ride the waves of change with minimum impact on our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing?

There are no hard and fast guidelines. Each person is unique and has a unique biochemistry. What may work beautifully for one individual may have no impact on another’s state of wellbeing.

Some suggestions that may provide assistance in coping with the intense stress and anxiety that is occurring at the moment include:

1.  Begin each day with a heartfelt expression of gratitude. This may relate to some particular aspect of your life, or it may be more general.

2.  Undertake daily recreation and relaxation activity – this may include walking, gardening, swimming, meditation, yoga, tai chi, etc. Anything and everything that helps lower stress levels. This does not include competitive activities!

3.  When a challenging situation arises over which you have absolutely no control, remind yourself gently, “This too shall pass”. A very powerful statement that assists in letting go of attachment and expectation.

4.  Deal with issues as they arise, instead of putting them to one side and worrying needlessly.

5.  Avoid stimulants and activities that induce a ‘flight or fight’ response in your body. This may mean no longer watching drama or action television last thing at night – but you will sleep so much better!

6.  Remove all electrical appliances from your bedroom and sleep in the dark – your body will heal as you sleep without the interference from ‘dirty electricity’ emitted by appliances.

7.  When a situation arises ask yourself, “Is this my problem?” If it is then deal with it. If it’s not then allow the person responsible to handle the issue/s.

8.  Let go of the need to control and learn to Trust.

9.  Worry less and laugh more.

10.  Take time daily to be in nature. Smell the roses, hug a tree and allow your body to enjoy and absorb the sun’s healing rays.

I am sure there are many other practical and helpful suggestions to reduce the stress of the changing times. It’s up to you to find the methods of letting go and relaxing that work for you – and when you do, then stick with those methods.

If you have other suggestions I welcome them. Just share your comments for others to read and adopt! We are all in this together, and the more we support one another and develop a sense of community the less stressful the whole process of shifting into the new and higher frequencies will be.